Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Your Questions: When?

Hi ya'll!  I received a question from Janice that I thought would probably resonate with a lot of readers so I'm going to give my input today and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic as well.

"How did you know when to pull the trigger and go for it?  How did you know it was time to adopt?"

We are adoptive parents by choice so when we decided we wanted to have kids, we decided to do that through adoption!  Every family comes to adoption differently.  Some families have children who are already grown, some have little children, some have already adopted, some are new parents, some are single parents, etc.  I'm not sure, Janice, where your family is at as far as whether or not you already have children, etc., but...

I think we all feel fearful to "pull the trigger," don't we?  Adoption is a huge deal.  It's scary and unknown and big and beyond our comfort zone.  It's also beautiful, adventurous, fulfilling, rewarding, and full of love!

That said, I don't think anyone is ever really ready to adopt.  We weren't ready for what lied ahead with our first adoption and we weren't ready for what came with our second adoption.  Just like being a parent in any form, can you really be ready and fully prepared before it happens?  I don't think so.  You learn as you go.  You make mistakes and you grow and you figure it out.

I believe there are things you can do to make yourself more ready. 

I'm a big advocate of reading about adoption issues before you bring your child home.  Read about attachment, trauma and children, transracial adoption (if that's the way you're going), etc.  Educate yourselves.  Of course, your agency will require you to do some reading and attend some trainings and those are helpful.  But go beyond that, too.

If you know any adoptive families, spend time with them and ask them some of your pressing questions.  Or ask me!  Read adoption blogs.  The more you know, the more prepared you are.

Here's the truth of the matter: when we started our first adoption process, we weren't ready.  We had no extra money so we weren't ready financially.  We were living in a 550 square foot duplex so we weren't ready space wise.  We had never been parents before so we didn't really know what we were getting into.  In all honesty, I had a moment during the first week we had our son where I thought, "What did we do?  And why did we think we were ready for this?" 

But it's okay.  We managed.  God helped us and we did it! 

Through my adoption journey, I've realized it all comes down to a simple equation.  There are children who need a family.  And I have a family.  So it just makes sense to bring those two things together.

It will be scary.  It will be intimidating and at times overwhelming.  It will be hard.  But it will also be blessed. 

"May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears."  -Nelson Mandela

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Tired Mom

Today is one of those days when I'm just tired as a mom.  I'm tired of nagging, tired of doling out consequences, tired of telling my boys AGAIN what not to do.  Do you have those days?  (of course you do!)

I want a day off. 

Yet I know that this is my task.  My task of motherhood is to help mold my sons into the men God wants them to be.  My job is to teach them right and wrong and to help them become successful and productive members of society.  Even when I'm tired.

Today I need strength, extra strength to do that.  So that's what I'm praying for.  All you tired parents, do you want to join me?!

Also...I'm thinking a date night needs to be planned.  We've been so busy lately and that is one thing we've neglected to do.  I need to line up a babysitter and plan a little time with Chris.  What do you do when you're just tired of the day-to-day, or when you just need a boost in motivation?

Monday, March 31, 2014

Sweet Goings Interview

My sweet friend Katey interviewed me for her blog as part of her World Changers series.  I'm honored to be featured today at Sweet Goings.  Please hop on over and check it out!  Katey is in the process of a foster care adoption and just met their new little daughter on Friday!  We've been blessed to become friends as she's prepared for this journey.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Ah, it's Sunday!

Ah, it is so nice to have a Sabbath to rest today!  It has been a crazy month for us!  Yesterday we moved my husband's gym to a new location.  We had so many people show up to help us, which made it go really quickly!  Family, friends, and clients came out on a Saturday morning to lug extremely heavy stuff across town.  We were so blessed by their help!

Right now all my guys are watching The Princess & The Frog.  E rented it from the library this week and I think he has watched it for the past 4 days in a row.

We are settling into our new home.  This week we rearranged the living room and I like it a lot better now.  My in laws gave us their old couch, which provided a lot more seating!  E keeps asking almost every day, when are we going to hang stuff on our walls?  I've been telling him we wanted to get our furniture figured out before we did that, so now that the living room is settled, I need to start hanging pictures and artwork.  I think E will feel a lot more settled once stuff is on the walls.

My friend Erin told me her kids slept in every room of the house to help them feel comfortable, so last night we let the boys sleep in the living room.  E came into our room a couple of times to ask what the humming noise was (the fridge), and other similar things.  So overall I think it was helpful for him to get comfortable with the house.

I hope you have a restful Sunday.  Thanks for reading!

Friday, March 14, 2014

Nerd Out With Me

I like statistics.  Do you?  I love checking out the Stats section of blogger to see where my blog's traffic is coming from, who's reading, etc.  Today I thought I'd share a little of that with you...just for fun!  So you can nerd out with me!

How to Survive a Foster Care Adoption
This post is one of my most popular every single week  It's been thrown around Pinterest a lot and I love that it's getting out there so much because I think people entering the journey of adoption need all the advice and encouragement they can get!

Most of my traffic comes from Facebook and Pinterest.  If you haven't already, go "like" God Found Us You on Facebook!  I keep up with a couple blogs I love through Facebook and it is such an easy way to stay updated on them.  Also, if you don't already follow me on Pinterest, here's the link:  Laurel Feierbach.

Aside from my most recent post Busy Busy, which got a lot of traffic for some reason, my most popular post of 2014 has so far been Forgiving Me

I love blogging and am so grateful for all of you who read my ramblings each week!  I find this blog to be such a release and a great outlet for me. 

By the way, I absolutely love when you comment on posts!  It reminds me you guys are listening and reading and that I'm not just talking to myself!  So please comment more!  Introduce yourself, share your thoughts and your life with us!

Thanks for reading, ya'll!  I will leave you with this:

Monday, March 10, 2014

Busy Busy

There's a lot going on around here right now! 

Ya'll, we are moving this weekend!  We're staying in town, but leaving our apartment for a rental house with a backyard!!!  Our time downsizing to this apartment has been good for all of us, but also difficult.  We have been blessed with two incredibly loud and rambunctious boys and raising them in a small apartment with no backyard has been a challenge!  We are so grateful God has blessed us with this new rental home with a huge backyard and a little extra breathing room.

Downsizing has been good for us to realize how little we actually NEED.  We can so easily become convinced that what we want is what we need, right?  We have gotten rid of a lot of stuff living in this apartment and it felt really good to let go.  My prayer is that we will keep that mentality even as we move back into a house, that we will not fall back into old patterns of clinging to and accumulating more and more stuff, but that we will be able to hold on to some of our newfound minimalism!

So amidst all the packing, cleaning, filling in nail holes, we're also preparing to move my husband's gym in the near future.  It is time for a new space for his personal training business so we have an offer out there on a place and are waiting to hear! 

God has been blessing my husband's business, which is amazing, but it also adds stress right now as new clients are signing up regularly and everything else in life is already crazy!  (Not complaining, just being real!)

I'm also registering E for kindergarten this week.  What!?!  How did that happen?!

Pray for us during this busy, exciting time!

Friday, March 7, 2014


this is my entry for I Heart Faces' "Smile" photo challenge.  a smile stays forever young.

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